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Welcome to Healthy Mind By Avik ™ - ”Healthy Mind, Healthy Life”, a podcast that explores the connection between mental health and overall well-being. Join us each week as we delve into topics related to positive psychology, mindfulness, and personal development, and provide practical tips and strategies for cultivating a healthy and balanced mind.
Want to be a guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life? Send Avik a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/avik
Welcome to Healthy Mind By Avik ™ - ”Healthy Mind, Healthy Life”, a podcast that explores the connection between mental health and overall well-being. Join us each week as we delve into topics related to positive psychology, mindfulness, and personal development, and provide practical tips and strategies for cultivating a healthy and balanced mind.
Want to be a guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life? Send Avik a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/avik
Episodes

3 hours ago
3 hours ago
There are moments when we reach for something, not because we are hungry, but because we are feeling something we don't quite know how to sit with. Stress. Loneliness. Restlessness. And for many people, that something becomes food. This episode asks the question that most diets never bother to ask: what if food was never the problem to begin with?
Paige Alexander has lived inside food addiction since her earliest memory, with sugar as her constant companion from childhood through her mid-50s. Today she co-founded Real Food Recovery, co-authored the book of the same name, and guides people through a recovery process that has nothing to do with willpower and everything to do with emotional honesty. In this conversation with Avik, she breaks open what compulsive eating actually is, why the diet approach keeps failing, and how real healing begins with one small, doable shift at a time.
About the Guest:
Paige Alexander is a Registered Nurse, wellness coach, speaker, and co-founder of Real Food Recovery. She is the co-author of Real Food Recovery: If Food Isn't the Answer, What's the Question? and host of the Real Food Recovery Podcast. Drawing on her own decades-long journey with food addiction, she guides people through a 16-branch recovery system built around emotional awareness, nervous system regulation, and community.
Key Takeaways:
- Food addiction is not a willpower problem. It activates the same brain pathways as any other addiction, and no amount of discipline or dieting will hold without addressing what is underneath the behavior.
- We give food a bigger job than it was ever meant to do. When we use food for comfort, stress relief, or emotional regulation, we are asking it to solve something it was never designed to solve.
- Awareness comes before change, always. The first step in recovery is not a food plan. It is a gentle, honest look at where food shows up in your life and what feeling it is trying to quiet.
- Change happens slowly and deliberately. Paige never starts with food. She starts with sleep, hydration, movement, spiritual life, whatever is the most accessible entry point. One small shift at a time.
- Connection is the opposite of addiction. You cannot do this alone, and you were never meant to. Community offers the compassion, coaching, and safety that makes the hard work feel doable.
- Recovery rewires the brain over time. Neural pathways formed over decades of habit cannot be changed overnight. Every time you choose a different response to stress, you are beginning to rebuild those pathways.
Connect With Paige Alexander:
- Website: https://www.realfoodrecovery4u.com
- Book (Real Food Recovery): https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F1P5T2D7
- Podcast: Real Food Recovery Podcast (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube)
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realfoodrecovery4u/
- TikTok: @realfoodrecovery
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/foodfitnessbypaige/
Episode Chapters:
[00:00] What We Reach For — The cold open on hunger that isn't about food
[07:54] Paige's Story — Sugar as a lifelong companion, from childhood to mid-50s
[10:00] The Willpower Myth — Why discipline alone will never be enough
[13:00] Giving Food Too Big a Job — What happens when eating becomes emotional management
[17:00] How It Shows Up Daily — The Starbucks stop, the desk snack, the midnight cookies [20:00] Starting Without Overwhelm — Why recovery begins with sleep, movement, and curiosity, not a food list
[22:00] Community, Self-Trust, and the Long Haul — Why healing is a journey, not a sprint
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Disclaimer: This episode is produced for educational and informational purposes only. All views expressed by the guest are their personal opinions alone and do not represent the views of the host or Healthy Mind by Avik™. The Network does not verify, endorse, or assume responsibility for any guest statements. Nothing in this episode constitutes medical, legal, financial, or professional advice, please consult a qualified professional before making any decisions. Listeners are encouraged to engage critically and independently with all content do not consume blindly. Use this content as a starting point for your own reflection and research, not as a substitute for professional guidance. Third-party content is referenced under fair use for informational purposes only. Guest speakers are solely responsible for their own statements.
If you have concerns about any content, please contact us here. By listening, you acknowledge and accept this disclaimer in full. Read detailed disclaimer here.
Healthy Mind By Avik™ is a global platform redefining mental health as a necessity, not a luxury. Born during the pandemic, it's become a sanctuary for healing, growth, and mindful living. Hosted by Avik Chakraborty, storyteller, survivor, and wellness advocate.
With over 6500+ episodes and 200K+ global listeners, we unite voices, break stigma, and build a world where every story matters. Subscribe and be part of this healing journey.
Brand: Healthy Mind By Avik™ | Email: https://www.podhub.club/contact | Website: https://www.podhub.club | Based in: India & USA Listen to all podcast shows: https://www.podhub.club/podcastnetwork | Be a guest: https://www.podhub.club/beaguest | Newsletter: https://healthymindbyavik.substack.com/
#podmatch #healthymindbyavik #podhub.club #healthymindandhealthylife #foodaddictionrecovery #emotionaleating #realfoodrecovery #sugaraddiction #compulsiveeating #healingfromtheinsideout #mentalwellness #nervouzsystemhealing #bodymindconnection #recoveryjourney #foodfreedom #emotionalwellness #mindfulhealing #selfcompassion

5 hours ago
5 hours ago
There's a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from being the person you had to become just to get through something. This episode is for anyone who has survived the hard thing, and is quietly wondering why they still feel like they're surviving it.
Yusuf sits down with Dr. Kaci Myers, Army veteran, certified life and love coach, author, and founder of Speaking Freedom. Dr. Kaci challenges the idea that healing means fixing something broken. Instead, she walks through reframing trauma so the lesson outweighs the trigger, the accountability work nobody wants to do in relationships, why we keep dating the same person in different bodies, and why journaling is the single most powerful practice for breaking patterns. A direct, grounded conversation about self-leadership, self-respect, and learning to hear your own soul before you hear anyone else's voice.
About the Guest:
Dr. Kaci Myers is the CEO and founder of Speaking Freedom, a virtual life coaching center, and the developer of the Spiritual Human Behavior framework, an evolving area of psychology that integrates spirituality, human behavior, and heart healing for purpose-driven living. She is an Army veteran, certified Life, Love, and Relationship Coach, Licensed Massage Therapist, ordained minister, mediation specialist, and the author of It's My Time (2006), with additional books and courses in production. Based in Atlanta, Georgia, she is widely known as "the Cardiologist of the Emotionally Scarred" for her direct, compassionate approach to helping clients move past trauma and into self-led purpose.
Key Takeaways:
- Survival mode never fully leaves. Triggers aren't always bad, but learning to recognize them is the first step out of constant defense.
- Healing isn't about fixing what was broken. It's about reframing the experience so the lesson outweighs the trigger.
- After loss, find the lessons. Going back through memories to pull out what someone taught you, in good times and bad, slowly transforms grief into gratitude.
- After a breakup, do the accountability work. What did you ignore? What did you allow? What inside you made the treatment feel okay?
- We don't keep dating different people. We keep dating the same person in different bodies, until we stop ignoring our own soul's "no."
- Write it down. Journaling creates accountability that thinking alone can't. Patterns become visible only when you can read them back to yourself.
Connect With the Guest:
- Website: https://speakingfreedom.org
- Bookstore and class booking: https://allthingsselfcare.org
- Instagram (@speakingfreedom): https://www.instagram.com/speakingfreedom
- X / Twitter: search "Speaking Freedom"
- Speaking Freedom TV: https://speakingfreedomtv.org
Episode Chapters:
[00:00] Cold Open: You Can Survive Something and Still Be Living Inside It
[02:30] Why Survival Mode Never Fully Leaves (approx.)
[05:00] Healing Is Reframing, Not Fixing (approx.)
[07:30] Grieving a Death: Finding the Lessons Hidden in the Memories (approx.)
[10:00] After a Breakup: The Accountability Work Most People Skip (approx.)
[14:00] The Pattern Nobody Wants to See: Dating the Same Person in Different Bodies (approx.) [17:30] Body Awareness as a Metaphor for Behavior Patterns (approx.)
[19:30] How to Stop Confusing Surface Attention with Real Connection (approx.)
[22:30] Why Journaling Beats Just Thinking About It (approx.)
[25:00] Final Reflection: Believe in Yourself, Then Build the Life You Want (approx.)
Want to be a guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life? DM on PM - Send me a message on PodMatch DM Me Here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/avik
Disclaimer: This episode is produced for educational and informational purposes only. All views expressed by the guest are their personal opinions alone and do not represent the views of the host or Healthy Mind by Avik™. The Network does not verify, endorse, or assume responsibility for any guest statements. Nothing in this episode constitutes medical, legal, financial, or professional advice, please consult a qualified professional before making any decisions. Listeners are encouraged to engage critically and independently with all content do not consume blindly. Use this content as a starting point for your own reflection and research, not as a substitute for professional guidance. Third-party content is referenced under fair use for informational purposes only. Guest speakers are solely responsible for their own statements.
If you have concerns about any content, please contact us here. By listening, you acknowledge and accept this disclaimer in full. Read detailed disclaimer here.
Healthy Mind By Avik™ is a global platform redefining mental health as a necessity, not a luxury. Born during the pandemic, it's become a sanctuary for healing, growth, and mindful living. Hosted by Avik Chakraborty, storyteller, survivor, and wellness advocate.
With over 6500+ episodes and 200K+ global listeners, we unite voices, break stigma, and build a world where every story matters. Subscribe and be part of this healing journey.
Brand: Healthy Mind By Avik™ | Email: https://www.podhub.club/contact | Website: https://www.podhub.club | Based in: India & USA Listen to all podcast shows: https://www.podhub.club/podcastnetwork | Be a guest: https://www.podhub.club/beaguest | Newsletter: https://healthymindbyavik.substack.com/
#podmatch #healthymindbyavik #podhub.club #SpeakingFreedom #DrKaciMyers #SpiritualHumanBehavior #FromSurvivalToSelfLeadership #ReframeNotFix #TraumaInformedCoaching #VeteranMentalHealth #RelationshipPatterns #JournalingForGrowth #MentalHealthPodcast #SelfAccountability #HealBeyondTrauma #LoveAndDiscipline

14 hours ago
14 hours ago
There's a particular kind of growth that doesn't arrive with fanfare. It arrives in the margins of a book at midnight, in a journal entry no one will ever read, in a single sentence that catches you off guard and stays. This episode is for anyone who has felt a little far from themselves and forgotten that words can bring you home.
Yusuf sits down with Susan "Susie" Gooch, novelist, retired English teacher, dyslexia advocate, and author of The Carrington Affairs and The Nonnegotiable. Susie shares the moment in eighth grade that taught her the power of the written word, how journaling lets students say things they didn't know they needed to say, why no one ever regrets time spent with their family, and the simple practice of asking yourself who you actually want to become. A warm, story-led conversation about reading as self-care and writing as self-discovery.
About the Guest:
Susan Gooch is a novelist, retired English teacher, and literacy advocate from Searcy, Arkansas. After more than two decades cultivating a love of reading and writing in her students, she now writes full-time. She is the author of The Carrington Affairs (Book 1) and The Nonnegotiable (Book 2) in The Carrington Series, with a third novel, The Dirty Birds Book Club, on the way. A voracious reader who finishes over two hundred books a year, she shares her favorites through her "Y'all Have Got To Read This" feature on Instagram. Susie is dyslexic, married to her high school sweetheart of nearly forty years, mother of three, and "Mimi" to four granddaughters.
Key Takeaways:
- Good writing doesn't go out of date. When a story nails the human condition, it connects across centuries and continents because people are fundamentally the same.
- Reading is communication. Telling a child "we're not reading people" gives them permission to opt out of becoming a fuller version of themselves.
- Journaling lets you say what you didn't know you needed to say. Quiet writing has a way of unburdening you in places conversation can't reach.
- You can choose the woman, the man, the person you want to be. The books you read and the ones you write are part of how you reinvent yourself daily.
- Start small. You wouldn't walk into a gym and try a four-hour workout with four hundred pound weights. Begin with a joke book, a short article, a single page. Build the habit before you scale it.
- The world is running. The peace is in being still long enough to actually be with the people, the pages, and the moments in front of you. No one has ever died wishing they spent less time with their family.
Connect With the Guest:
- Website: https://www.susangooch.com
- Instagram (@susangoochauthor): https://www.instagram.com/susangoochauthor
- Book The Carrington Affairs (Amazon paperback): https://www.amazon.com/Carrington-Affairs-Novel-Little-Secrets/dp/B0CX3Q6ZB3
- Book The Nonnegotiable (Amazon): https://www.amazon.com/Nonnegotiable-Carrington-Book-2/dp/1636987990
- Y'all Have Got To Read This book recommendation series: search "@susangoochauthor" on Instagram
Episode Chapters:
[00:00] Cold Open: When Was the Last Time a Book Changed Something in You?
[02:30] The Eighth-Grade Moment That Showed Susie the Power of Words (approx.)
[05:30] Reading 20 Minutes a Day and Choosing Who You Become (approx.)
[08:30] Why "We're Not Reading People" Quietly Hurts a Child's Future (approx.)
[12:00] Starting Small: Joke Books, TikTok Lyrics, and Building the Habit (approx.)
[14:30] Why People Lose the Habit, and How to Find Their Way Back (approx.)
[18:30] The Hidden Cost of Always Running After the Next Thing (approx.)
[21:00] Why No One Ever Dies Wishing They Worked More (approx.)
[23:00] Final Reflection: Choose Your One Non-Negotiable (approx.)
Want to be a guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life? DM on PM - Send me a message on PodMatch DM Me Here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/avik
Disclaimer: This episode is produced for educational and informational purposes only. All views expressed by the guest are their personal opinions alone and do not represent the views of the host or Healthy Mind by Avik™. The Network does not verify, endorse, or assume responsibility for any guest statements. Nothing in this episode constitutes medical, legal, financial, or professional advice, please consult a qualified professional before making any decisions. Listeners are encouraged to engage critically and independently with all content do not consume blindly. Use this content as a starting point for your own reflection and research, not as a substitute for professional guidance. Third-party content is referenced under fair use for informational purposes only. Guest speakers are solely responsible for their own statements.
If you have concerns about any content, please contact us here. By listening, you acknowledge and accept this disclaimer in full. Read detailed disclaimer here.
Healthy Mind By Avik™ is a global platform redefining mental health as a necessity, not a luxury. Born during the pandemic, it's become a sanctuary for healing, growth, and mindful living. Hosted by Avik Chakraborty, storyteller, survivor, and wellness advocate.
With over 6500+ episodes and 200K+ global listeners, we unite voices, break stigma, and build a world where every story matters. Subscribe and be part of this healing journey.
Brand: Healthy Mind By Avik™ | Email: https://www.podhub.club/contact | Website: https://www.podhub.club | Based in: India & USA Listen to all podcast shows: https://www.podhub.club/podcastnetwork | Be a guest: https://www.podhub.club/beaguest | Newsletter: https://healthymindbyavik.substack.com/
#podmatch #healthymindbyavik #podhub.club #SusanGooch #SusieGooch #TheCarringtonAffairs #TheNonnegotiable #ReadingForGrowth #JournalingForMentalHealth #LiteracyAdvocate #DyslexiaJourney #YallHaveGotToReadThis #MentalHealthPodcast #BookClubLife #ChooseYourNonNegotiable #SmallTownSouthernFiction

15 hours ago
15 hours ago
Some loves don't end with a single goodbye. They end slowly, breath by breath, in the long middle where you're still loving someone who is leaving. This episode is for anyone who has lived inside that kind of farewell, or who knows that one day they will.
Yusuf sits down with Rachel Kerr Schneider, author of The Widow Chose Red? My Journey with Jesus, John, and ALS. Rachel walks through her 24 years with her late husband John, the year of silent caregiving before she told their two young sons, the cost of being "the strong one" too long, and what it actually means to help someone finish well. They talk about why families avoid the conversation about death until they're forced into it, what children carry when no one knows how to name it, and the quiet sacredness of an ordinary day with someone you love. Honest, warm, and quietly luminous.
About the Guest:
Rachel Kerr Schneider is the author of the award-winning memoir The Widow Chose Red? My Journey with Jesus, John, and ALS, with a foreword by New York Times bestselling author Patty Aubery. After losing her first husband John to ALS in 2011, Rachel raised their two sons through grief, single parenting, and her older son's recovery from addiction, and eventually remarried, becoming a bonus mom to four girls who lost their own mother to breast cancer. She is the founder of Spirited Prosperity, a faith-based ministry that helps women navigate life's hardest seasons. Her career spans advertising, marketing, and direct sales, where she built a team of more than 400 women. She lives in north Texas with her husband, Kevin. Proceeds from her book benefit the LiveLikeLou Foundation for ALS research and family support.
Key Takeaways:
- Caregiving can quietly rob you of joy if you let the urgency of the day-to-day eclipse the memory of the person. Make space, even briefly, to feel them as more than their illness.
- "Being strong for them" cracks. The real strength is letting yourself be vulnerable enough to say what you actually feel, especially with the person you love.
- The conversation about death needs to happen more than once, and ideally before the diagnosis arrives. Avoiding it doesn't protect anyone, it just leaves the family to make impossible decisions while emotionally distraught.
- Children grieve in code. One may turn to drugs, another to sports, another to silence. They don't need perfect answers, they need presence, truth, and permission to feel.
- Finishing well is rarely about doing something extraordinary. For Rachel's husband, it was: keep life as normal as possible, stay close to the people I love, die at home. Honoring those wishes, however simple, is the work.
- Memory is its own form of presence. A song, a smell, a phrase can return you to someone in a moment. Grief and love share the same neural pathway. That's a gift, not a burden.
Connect With the Guest:
- Website: https://www.spiritedprosperity.com
- Book The Widow Chose Red? (Amazon paperback): https://www.amazon.com/Widow-Chose-Red-Journey-Jesus/dp/1966561105
- Audiobook on Audible: https://www.amazon.com/Widow-Chose-Red-Journey-Jesus/dp/B0FP6JP1M2
- LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube, and Instagram: search "Rachel Kerr Schneider"
Episode Chapters:
[00:00] Cold Open: How Do You Stay Alive Inside a Slow Goodbye?
[03:00] The Moments That Take Your Breath Away (approx.)
[06:30] How Caregiving Slowly Eclipsed the Joy (approx.)
[09:00] Why "Being Strong" Eventually Cracks (approx.)
[12:00] Why Families Avoid the Death Conversation Until They're Forced To (approx.)
[15:00] What Children Carry When No One Knows How to Name It (approx.)
[19:00] What Finishing Well Actually Looks Like in Real Life (approx.)
[22:30] The Sacredness of an Ordinary Day With Someone You Love (approx.)
[24:30] Memory as a Form of Presence (approx.)
Want to be a guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life? DM on PM - Send me a message on PodMatch DM Me Here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/avik
Disclaimer: This episode is produced for educational and informational purposes only. All views expressed by the guest are their personal opinions alone and do not represent the views of the host or Healthy Mind by Avik™. The Network does not verify, endorse, or assume responsibility for any guest statements. Nothing in this episode constitutes medical, legal, financial, or professional advice, please consult a qualified professional before making any decisions. Listeners are encouraged to engage critically and independently with all content do not consume blindly. Use this content as a starting point for your own reflection and research, not as a substitute for professional guidance. Third-party content is referenced under fair use for informational purposes only. Guest speakers are solely responsible for their own statements.
If you have concerns about any content, please contact us here. By listening, you acknowledge and accept this disclaimer in full. Read detailed disclaimer here.
Healthy Mind By Avik™ is a global platform redefining mental health as a necessity, not a luxury. Born during the pandemic, it's become a sanctuary for healing, growth, and mindful living. Hosted by Avik Chakraborty, storyteller, survivor, and wellness advocate.
With over 6500+ episodes and 200K+ global listeners, we unite voices, break stigma, and build a world where every story matters. Subscribe and be part of this healing journey.
Brand: Healthy Mind By Avik™ | Email: https://www.podhub.club/contact | Website: https://www.podhub.club | Based in: India & USA Listen to all podcast shows: https://www.podhub.club/podcastnetwork | Be a guest: https://www.podhub.club/beaguest | Newsletter: https://healthymindbyavik.substack.com/
#podmatch #healthymindbyavik #podhub.club #TheWidowChoseRed #RachelKerrSchneider #ALSAwareness #LouGehrigsDisease #CaregiverMentalHealth #GriefAndLove #FinishingWell #MemoirOfHope #FaithThroughGrief #MentalHealthPodcast #SpiritedProsperity #WidowJourney #LiveLikeLouFoundation

2 days ago
2 days ago
Most comeback stories skip the part that actually matters. The middle. The part where you don't recognize yourself anymore, where getting out of bed feels like a negotiation, where you isolate because you can't bear to be seen. This episode lives in that middle.
Sana sits down with Michael Bugary, former Boston Red Sox prospect, brain cancer survivor, motivational speaker, and author of The Disease of Me. Michael walks through losing his professional baseball career at 23, the opiate addiction that followed, the brain cancer diagnosis that stripped him down further, and the slow, difficult work of building self-worth from the inside out. They talk about identity foreclosure, why connection matters more than achievement, and the line that anchors the whole conversation: I am the disease, not the drugs. Honest, raw, and quietly hopeful.
About the Guest:
Michael Bugary is a former Division I and professional baseball player, brain cancer survivor, motivational speaker, mentor, and author of The Disease of Me: How Losing My Professional Baseball Career, Drug Addiction, and Brain Cancer Saved My Life. He played at UC Berkeley before being drafted by the Boston Red Sox organization. After a career-ending arm injury in his second professional season, he turned to opiates to cope with depression and the loss of identity. As his addiction progressed, he was diagnosed with a large malignant brain tumor and underwent multiple surgeries, intense chemotherapy, and radiation. Today he speaks and writes about what he calls the Triple Crown of Adversity — career loss, addiction, and cancer, and the path back to a life rooted in humility, recovery, and truth.
Key Takeaways:
- When your identity is built on one thing and that thing is taken away, the loss isn't just the dream. It's the person you thought you were. Psychology calls it identity foreclosure. Michael lived it.
- Addiction isn't always about substances. It can be the chase for validation, attention, or the version of yourself that the world used to applaud.
- "I am the disease, not the drugs." The substance is a symptom. The deeper pattern is the constant need for more, validation, attention, the next high, the next achievement.
- Isolation feels like protection but quietly becomes another form of suffering. Asking for help isn't financial. It's saying the real, honest thing out loud.
- Acceptance is not approval. It's acknowledging that something happened, that you can't change it, and that you can do better from here.
- Compare yourself only to who you were yesterday. The only person worth measuring against is your old self, not anyone else's version of success.
Connect With the Guest:
- Website: https://www.michaelbugary.com/
- Book The Disease of Me (Amazon paperback): https://www.amazon.com/Disease-Me-Professional-Baseball-Addiction/dp/B0GMYFNG4C
- Book The Disease of Me (Kindle): https://www.amazon.com/Disease-Me-Professional-Baseball-Addiction-ebook/dp/B0GMYBQZ3S
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-bugary-29802a323/
- Instagram and Facebook
Episode Chapters:
[00:00] Cold Open: The Quiet, Messy Middle Nobody Talks About
[03:00] Losing Baseball at 23 and What Actually Broke (approx.)
[06:00] Identity Foreclosure: When the Thing You Built Yourself On Disappears (approx.) [09:00] OxyContin, Numbing, and the Lies We Tell to Survive (approx.)
[13:00] The Difference Between Surviving and Living (approx.)
[15:30] "I Am the Disease, Not the Drugs": Naming the Real Pattern (approx.)
[18:00] Why Brain Cancer Made Michael Isolate Even More (approx.)
[22:00] Authenticity, Vulnerability, and Why Pretending Is Exhausting (approx.)
[26:00] Suffering as a Choice: Pain vs. Suffering, Connection vs. Isolation (approx.)
[30:00] Acceptance Is Not Approval (approx.)
[33:00] Final Reflection: Compare Yourself Only to Who You Were Yesterday (approx.)
Want to be a guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life? DM on PM - Send me a message on PodMatch DM Me Here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/avik
Disclaimer: This episode is produced for educational and informational purposes only. All views expressed by the guest are their personal opinions alone and do not represent the views of the host or Healthy Mind by Avik™. The Network does not verify, endorse, or assume responsibility for any guest statements. Nothing in this episode constitutes medical, legal, financial, or professional advice, please consult a qualified professional before making any decisions. Listeners are encouraged to engage critically and independently with all content do not consume blindly. Use this content as a starting point for your own reflection and research, not as a substitute for professional guidance. Third-party content is referenced under fair use for informational purposes only. Guest speakers are solely responsible for their own statements.
If you have concerns about any content, please contact us here. By listening, you acknowledge and accept this disclaimer in full. Read detailed disclaimer here.
Healthy Mind By Avik™ is a global platform redefining mental health as a necessity, not a luxury. Born during the pandemic, it's become a sanctuary for healing, growth, and mindful living. Hosted by Avik Chakraborty, storyteller, survivor, and wellness advocate.
With over 6500+ episodes and 200K+ global listeners, we unite voices, break stigma, and build a world where every story matters. Subscribe and be part of this healing journey.
Brand: Healthy Mind By Avik™ | Email: https://www.podhub.club/contact | Website: https://www.podhub.club | Based in: India & USA Listen to all podcast shows: https://www.podhub.club/podcastnetwork | Be a guest: https://www.podhub.club/beaguest | Newsletter: https://healthymindbyavik.substack.com/
#podmatch #healthymindbyavik #podhub.club #DiseaseOfMe #MichaelBugary #BaseballToRecovery #AddictionRecovery #BrainCancerSurvivor #IdentityFoiclosure #SoberLiving #MentalHealthPodcast #TripleCrownOfAdversity #AuthenticityHeals #IAmTheDisease #VulnerabilityIsStrength #FromSurvivalToLiving

2 days ago
2 days ago
You can say no clearly, communicate your needs, and still find yourself in situations you never wanted to be in. This episode is for anyone who has done the boundary work and wondered why it keeps not landing.
Sayan sits down with Kelly Gagalis, Marriage and Family Therapist, dating rehabilitation specialist, and creator of Swipe Safely and the Hero Dating Method. Kelly makes a sharp distinction most people have never heard: most of what we call "boundaries" are actually requests dressed up as rules, held in place by shame and nagging. They unpack the difference between prey behavior and confident deterrent, why early action keeps you safer than late communication, and what it actually takes to build a boundary that holds. A clarifying, no-fluff conversation for anyone dating, partnering, or rebuilding trust in their own instincts.
About the Guest:
Kelly Gagalis is a Marriage and Family Therapist with 15+ years of coaching experience, a monthly ABC TV dating and relationship contributor for 17 years, and the creator of the Hero Dating Method, Swipe Safely, and the Developmental Boundary System. She helps women and gay men rebuild trust, protect their peace, and attract partners who truly value them, through private coaching and a free safety app for online dating.
Key Takeaways:
- Most "boundaries" aren't boundaries, they're requests held together with shame, nagging, or inconsistency. A real boundary doesn't depend on the other person honoring it.
- A real boundary has a built-in repercussion. If you're not willing to change the relationship when the line is crossed, you've made a request, not set a boundary.
- Prey behavior is what gets us hurt. Predators succeed when their target sees the threat and doesn't respond early enough. Confident deterrent is responding the moment something crosses the line.
- Many of us were taught, as children, that asking for help or saying no would be punished. As adults, that script still runs underneath our adult relationships.
- The work is letting shame run through you and doing the protective action anyway. That's how you rewrite the developmental script.
- Safety isn't about what you say in the moment. It's about what you notice in your environment, what you choose consciously, and how early you act.
Connect With the Guest:
- Website: https://kelly.love
- Swipe Safely (free dating safety app and course): https://swipesafely.com
- Coaching site: https://www.kellymariehoffman.com
Episode Chapters:
[00:00] Cold Open: When Boundaries Don't Work
[02:30] What Most People Get Wrong About Boundaries (approx.)
[05:30] Where the Confusion Started: Parenting, Shame, and the Last 70 Years (approx.) [09:00] The Difference Between a Boundary, a Request, and a Bullying Tactic (approx.)
[12:00] Why Insecure Attachment Quietly Sabotages Boundary-Setting (approx.)
[15:30] Prey Behavior vs. Confident Deterrent: A Wildlife Lesson for Dating (approx.)
[19:00] The Childhood Script Most People Are Still Running (approx.)
[21:30] Letting the Shame Run Through You and Doing It Anyway (approx.)
[23:30] Final Reframe: Safety Is Awareness, Choice, and Early Action (approx.)
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